This is a very common question that I receive from couples. They've talked about it, but don't know where to start. I will try to help if I can.

The best way to start in the lifestyle is by going to an area "off-premises" couples club. The reason I recommend an off-premises club for the first few times is that it will give you the chance to meet and talk to other couples about the lifestyle, without the worry or pressure of "sex"! Nothing much sexual happens in an off-premises club; it's more of a meeting place for like-minded couples.

Tell the people you meet that you are new to the lifestyle and would like to learn more. You will find that the vast majority will be very open and helpful and will answer any and all of your questions with pleasure. An "on-premises" club won't allow this luxury, as most participants in attendance are eager for sex, and not for talk.

Look in the various listings available on the Internet for couples clubs and call a few in your general area. Tell the hosts that you would like to attend a get-together and that it would be your first time. A good club will want to interview you prior to giving you the club location. The main reason for this is that they want to be sure that both you and your partner are fully aware of what the club is and what they do. You will also learn about the extent of the allowable "activities" at the club, and will be free to ask any question yourself. I personally am wary of any club that doesn't go through the interview process.

By some chance, if you are in an area that doesn't have a couples club within a reasonable distance, your next choice would be to place or answer an ad in a local or national "swing" magazine. There are many publications available, usually at your local newsstand. There are also many great on-line couples contact publications, and these pages have great contact ads for couples looking for other couples (and singles too!).

Remember, this will be new to you, so take your time. If you meet someone who you aren't interested in, don't be afraid to say "No!". Most lifestylers understand that the chemistry isn't always there between couples and won't be offended. Those that are offended....well, that just proves that you made the right choice in saying no!

Above all, have fun! That's what the lifestyle is all about. Fun and enjoyment with open-minded friends. You'll soon come to realize that the sex is secondary to the friendships you will develop.